TED Talk: How to spot a liar

Almost forgot about my How to tell when your boss is lying post.

This attracted me to this TED Talk: “Koko once blamed her pet kitten for ripping a sink of the wall.”

On any given day we’re lied to from 10 to 200 times, and the clues to detect those lie can be subtle and counter-intuitive. Pamela Meyer, author of Liespotting, shows the manners and “hotspots” used by those trained to recognize deception — and she argues honesty is a value worth preserving.

Some interesting things:

    • We lie more to strangers than coworkers.
    • Extroverts lie more than introverts.
    • Men lie 8x more about themselves than other people.
    • Women lie more to protect other people.

If the below video does not work, then click this: Pamela Meyer: How to spot a liar

Cognitive Load

My parents taught me as a child lying is harder than telling the truth. I am way too lazy to bother with anything other than using a tangent to change the subject. Simplicity also helps keep track of my life. I like understanding what is happening and why.

Skills involved in deception also teach problem-solving, project management, and social context management. My favorite friends were the brilliant liars. They always had a new entertaining story.

For a host of reasons, their theory goes, lying is more mentally taxing than telling the truth. Performing an extra task while lying or telling the truth should therefore affect the liars more. The Load of Lying: Testing for Truth

As evidenced by Dunbar’s Number, our brains are wired for both determining honesty in others and being the cheat.