There seem to be two ways to recommend something to others…

  1. Because the person making the recommendation likes it.
  2. Because the person making the recommendation knows the one receiving it and thinks that person will like it.

The last time I looked, I am not anyone else. I like things others do not. Others like things I do not. My list of books I hate falls includes the favorites of others. What another likes is only a measure of whether we like similar things. Only if we actually have strong similarities in what we like would the recommendation of what I like have real value.

Reading books people know about results in people either telling me their opinions. They loved it, hated it, felt ambivalent, or may want to read it. That last group want to know whether I like it. When they are my friends, I tend to offer why I think they will or will not like it.

Yesterday on Facebook, a friend asked whether Catch-22 is good. As an Austen fan, I did not think she would adore a book about war, bureaucracy, and most especially sex with prostitutes. Male friends who did not know the one asking about the book said they loved it. They naturally recommended reading it. If she had similar tastes to them, then I would agree.

What I get for discussing things in public.

Also what I get for discussing books people have or want to read. I probably should stick to esoteric non-fiction no one else wants to read.


5 thoughts on “Recommendations”

  1. people families and friends give them lots of recommendations. But i think everybody must respect their ideas. if someone recommend to other for doing something and he or she doesnt do it they wouldnt hurt him. The best thing everyone do something with their free ideas.

    • Sure, family and friends give me lots of recommendations. The female friend mentioned in the post highly recommended Pride and Prejudice which I thought the most boring book I have read in ten years. A guy who rarely dates women because it does not interest him much does not sympathize well to women obsessed with marrying.

      A bad recommendation wastes my money and my time. So, I disagree. It does hurt me.

      Also, these were strangers making the recommendation not family or friends. Her one friend was me who thought she would not like it.

  2. Top ten lists are like recommendations. Rare is it that I run across a top ten list of books, movies, or television shows where I agree with half the ones I have already experienced on the list. Why should I bother reading any of the rest?

    Maybe I just am not impressed very often.


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