Occasionally friends will see something they like and tag another friend in a comment. In general, I have a privacy level of Friends on my posts. Non-mutual friends are not able to see these tags. I knew about and disliked these options:
- Leave it alone.Â The friend’s friend has no idea the post exists unless someone says something off Facebook.
- Tell my friend. Maybe if the friend is technical they get it right away. Otherwise, I may have to spend lots of time explaining privacy.
- Make the privacy level Public. Then anyone can see it. I have considered this acceptable a few times because I would not mind it being public so I did change the privacy level. My use of Friends is a safe, conservative default. There are probably things set to Friends that I would not mind being Public, but I have not bothered to make it so.
- Friend the tagged person. That seems creepy and weird as a solution to allowing someoto view a post.
I just realized there might be another option. Setting these posts with non-mutual friends tagged in a comment Â could be the compromise I need. Changing the privacy level to FoF which would allow their friend to see it while also not making the post public.Â Given my number of friends, this probably is a giant number of people, but not as bad as public.
A better idea of how many and who are in my Friends of Friends might be nice. The easy way to look at them is a search for “People who I may know.” Getting a count from this is tougher.
I have seenÂ others use aÂ Friends of Friends permission but not often. It is not in the main list of permissions which are Public, Friends, and Only Me. Going into More Options there is Friends Except Acquaintances, Custom, and the giant number of listsÂ I once created when I was more serious about ensuring my posts were targeted to my various friends.1Â It turned out Friends of Friends can be used by going into More Options > Custom > and typing in “Share with: These people or lists” the name “Friends of Friends.”
Of course, it also leads to Facebook worrying that I know what I am doing:
Ezra, it looks like someone who isn’t your friend recently liked one of your posts. We want to make sure you know who can see the things you post. To learn more, check out Privacy Basics.
1. The so many lists were difficult to maintain as I would have to seriously consider who should be in which lists and make sure that people were placed in the correct ones. That was hard enough when it was about 300 friends and a couple dozen lists. With almost 900 friends and about 50 groups, it is too complicated to maintain. I’d need to consolidate the lists to make it viable, but I have not been so willing.